Recently I’ve seen a lot of posts, opinions, and rants floating around about whether or not to do Santa in your house. It is certainly a point of contention in the parenting community.
“Santa is magical”
“Santa means lying to your children.”
“Without Santa, how can a child possibly develop an imagination? A key element to childhood? You would rob them of that?”
“Santa is creepy. Kids sit on his lap, whisper what they want, then he sneaks into their home while they are asleep to give them presents!”
No matter who you are I’m sure you have an opinion. And I’m sure that how you were brought up influenced your current opinion.
So Santa or no Santa?
My response: who cares.
Do we really need more Mommy Wars? Over a fictional character?
Just find what works for your family, and give everyone else a break.
Do we do Santa in our house? No. We don’t do Elf on the Shelf either (I’m not worrying about moving some darn elf around the house – ain’t nobody got time for that!)
Why you ask?
Everyone has their reasons.
When I was growing up my parents did Santa with us. But I was never a “believer”. I couldn’t wrap my mind around it.
One man, one night. Every child in the world. Hmmm. Then why are we making Christmas shoeboxes to send to kids in Uganda? Won’t Santa just bring them a gift? My mom wasn’t sure how to answer.
She also didn’t know how to answer many other questions I had. How can he fit through the chimney? What about people without chimneys? How can he eat milk and cookies at every house and never get full? How come Santa’s writing on the nametag looks just like dad’s?
When I received the answer “It’s magic” I always retaliated with “I thought magic wasn’t real and that the Bible says only God makes miracles happen. Does that mean Santa is like God?”
My poor mother.
And then …Mom, do YOU believe in Santa? To which she replied, “I believe in the spirit of Santa Claus and of giving. ” So that’s a no.
Yeah I was one of those annoying kids. I couldn’t just accept the whole Santa deal. Too many questions. But I was sure not to ruin it for my little brother who enjoyed it.
Bottom line: you do you. Whatever works for your family.
I already see my kids being of the same nature as I was as a kid. So I’m going to bypass all those questions I had asked my own mom, and keep Santa as a Frosty the Snowman type fictional character. He’s not “banned” in our home, after all, the movie Elf if hilarious!
But we found what works for us. And we are happy with it.
I hope you can find what works for your family too.